How often do you take on others problems and try to help them solve them? So often we take on the toils of others out of pure love to ensure they are safe and out of harm. When you work in an industry where helping people is your main trade you tend to bring this into your personal life too. Part of the hardest thing about being in industries where helping other is your key focus is where do your create that boundary. People are drawn to you because you are a helper, you are nice but then tend to drop you as soon as you are unnecessary. As humans its a natural instinct to be wanted to be needed. We like the idea that someone wants us or needs us. Especially as females we are providers, that what we are created for, to create little humans and provide for them. What I tend to find is I get too emotionally involved in those I care about, I feel their pain when things go wrong, I want to carry and nurture them to make sure they are pain free, but what you have to remember is everyone has to carry their own backpack. One of my friends pulled me aside the other day. With a lot of change happening in my life right now, it causes major unsettlement with emotions which causes you to over worry, over think and over emotionalise everything. She told me this story about your own backpack. Everyone has their own life backpack they have to carry. Everyones each individual backpack is pretty heavy, its full of everything in your life, your worries, your fears, your emotions, your trophies, your winnings, your dreams – everything. Everybody has one of these backpacks and everyones backpack is pretty darn full. You can’t unload someone else backpack onto yours, because how will you then be able to climb the hill? All you can do is hold their hand, support them, and encourage them to the top. SO here is my weekly motivation for you. If you are trying to help someone else unload their backpack. STOP. Support, cry with them, hold their Hand, encourage them BUT you cannot take on their backpack as well as your own. What I suggest for you this week is to support. If you can feel someone struggling, reach out. Ask them if they are okay, let them know you are there to support. Let them know that we can all talk about our backpacks, and we can all support each other. But remember you have enough in your backpack alone. You need to focus on that.
Ladies and gents, one thing that’s always a hot topic is body confidence and body image. For many years I was completely obsessed with having THE perfect body, or having THE leanest because that’s how I felt people judged me. Don’t get me wrong I find it hard in my 30’s not to wonder if the reason I’m single is I feel myself have the body of a child still and a lot of the time struggle to accept exactly how I look, but that’s another matter that I will come on too. But the bottom line is, yes we all want to strive to look a specific way and yes we may want a bigger bottom, a smaller waist or want abs, but with all these different body shapes come all sorts of beautiful people. Really what is the essential matter is what lies within yourself. The words you tell yourself, your words you tell others, the patience you give yourself and the kindness you give to yourself and others. I became so frustrated at my body this year I even decided I was DEFINITELY going to go and buy myself some boobs. Had the consultation, got everything sized up and then I stopped myself for a moment. What were the reasons I was doing it? It was because I was struggling to accept myself the way I was. I looked at all these woman around me, who looked like woman, and I couldn’t accept that I didn’t look like that. But what I represent and what I do is about helping others embrace their bodies and shining through from the inside. So I took a moment, roughly around about the time I went to Tenerife to take a step back and reflect on things. What are the things people tell me: – I have incredible legs – I have a pure heart – I care about everyone – I am passionate – I am inspiring – I have an amazing smile – The best one I have ever had is I can light up the room with my positive aura.
When I stepped back I thought, if I was to get that done, I had to be doing it for me, not because It made me worry I wouldn’t meet someone who would accept me. Then it clicked, Someone who is meant for you will accept you exactly the way you are through everything. When I had the consultation and looked at my body with them I was like it looked weird. It looked weird because I spent so much time accepting my body as this tall, lean, athletic and thin looking human. For the first time in many years I was actually really healthy and happy with everything, especially in my approach to food. Other things were booming for me, my career, my friendships so really why was I standing there beating myself up about having a body surrounding a heart that can give so deeply to everything I do. So why am I writing this. I am writing this because we all face these issues. We all face times we just think I hate my body, I wish I was a specific size, I wish I had smaller this or bigger that. STOP… what I want you to do is take time out today to tell yourself what’s positive about you? What would you never give up about yourself? Who are you? What amazing things are happening for you right now? What do others say they would love about you? Focus on the positives, not physically but emotionally. Beauty and Bodies are only skin deep. Beauty fades, bodies change and when you are old and wrinkly you don’t want to look back and say I spent 30 years of my life hating on myself and not living life with vigour, fun and confidence. So go out there today, stop worrying about everyone else, start Walking proud whatever body shape you are, smile in the knowing that you are you, and that is the best version you could ever be.
I have been doing alot of research on this recently mainly because when I moved to London, your life becomes so fast paced and theres so many other factors contributing to your life that my skin just couldn’t cope. I have been trialling and testing lots of different things to try and boost my glow and enhance my skin to stop it looking so tired and dull with the pollution down here. In combination with stress of a much more fast paced life my body and skin were like no more. The key thing I knew I could fully control to ensure at least good skin can be nourished and that is only by consuming foods that help enhance your skin. Here are my top 5 foods for a clearer, more glowing complexion:
Wild Salmon is one of the best food sources for omega-3 fatty acids, which helps keep your skin supple and moisturized. Salmon also has selenium, a mineral that protects the skin from sun exposure. The vitamin D in salmon keeps your bones and teeth strong and healthy, too.
The avocado is a beautiful fruit packed full of healthy goodness, so much so that to only eat it and not utilize its full potential by also applying topically to the skin and hair would be a crime to Mother Nature herself!
The nutrient dense and creamy fruit – affectionately referred to as ‘nature’s butter’ – is an excellent source of over twenty vitamins and minerals, including vitamin B, C, E and K, riboflavin, niacin, folate, pantothenic acid, magnesium, potassium, lutein, beta-carotene, omega-3 fatty acids and anti-ageing antioxidants.
Walnuts are an excellent source of anti-inflammatory omega-3 essential fatty acids, in the form of alpha-linolenic acid (ALA). Walnuts are also rich in antioxidants, including being a very good source of manganese and copper. They are also a good source of molybdenum and the B vitamin biotin. They are super high in Anti-Oxidents so makes an amazing to help repair and promote clear skin.
Sweet potato is considered as an excellent source of natural, health-promoting compounds known as beta-carotene and anthocyanin. Beta-carotene is known to reduce the risk of several chronic diseases, including cancer, cardiovascular diseases, age-related macular degeneration, and cataracts. Anthocyanin fights pigmentation and provides anti-inflammatory benefits to the skin. Vitamins A, B, and C have antioxidant properties that help in fighting against damage caused by free radicals. Eating the skin will add more nutrition to your plate such as fiber and potassium. Also baking them is a better choice than boiling. Boiling can cause water soluble nutrients to be lost. Sweet potatoes are a great source of vitamin A. Vitamin A is important for keeping your eyes and skin healthy.
Flavonols are antioxidants that help your skin protect itself from UV damage (hello, fewer wrinkles) fight free radicals (so long, sun spots) and increase blood flow (i.e. dewy glow!). In one study, flavonols in dark chocolate even improved skin hydration and thickness—both mega important for young-looking skin.
They always say, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” meaning “that which one person finds beautiful or admirable may not appeal to another.” It is also true to say your eyes are the gateway to your soul. Your eyes can hide many emotions and reveal many emotions. Eyes can show pain, love, happiness, tears of joy, tears of pain, hold intimacy, watch moments of joy, and see all that affects your mind. Your eyes are POWERFUL, and you need your mind to be just as powerful so as you can become the absolute best version of yourself by no longer hiding pain, but exhuberating joy in the forefront of your eyes. This time of year is tough for lots of people, those that have lost loved ones over the year, those that are alone, those that have lost themselves and are back on a journey of discovery, today we are there for you to help reach out and express that pain. Emotion shared is emotional relief halved. At this time of year tell people how you feel, renew your soul, renew your spirit, and stop hiding behind your eyes. Make a promise to yourself that between now and 2017 you take a moment to sit down and write 5 – 10 things that you will improve on in 2017 to improve your overall happiness in 2017 and let go of situations that are holding you back. A new year is a chance for renewal, to leave behind unwanted habits, people, or anything holding you back.
Believe in the beauty of your dreams and strive forward to achieve them.
Believe in You – Believe in Your Best Version
So you are feeling a little bit down in the dumps about yourself… you might of had a bad day, you may of heard some bad news, you might not have made it to the gym even once this week and tomorrow you have a MASSIVE meeting, interview, event, date, whatever it is that you want to feel amazing for! *sighs* We have all been there, yes I can even tell you even the top of the top models have been there, top athletes, top business men and woman – basically everyone has these moments where they just think… Why do I just feel and look like a pile of pants… So its coming up to 5pm or whatver your work finishing time is and you have about 15 hours to turn this mood around… What are you going to do? How are you going to feel better?
NUTRITION: its that famous saying you are what you eat… When you eat better you feel better about yourself, you ooze confidence, you radiate self esteem and you feel much happier in yourself. My Top 2 mood boosting meals for you:
STEP 2: GET YO ASS TO THE GYM
Yes as annoying as it sounds, even just a 30 minute boost of energy! Even just 30 minutes of boosting exercise can help you focus more, feel better in your mody and feel more motivated!!! You don’t even need to go to the gym you can do it from your living room, kitchen or bedroom!! www.newyouin30.co.uk 30 Minutes of exercise 3 – 5 times a week is all you need consistently to boost your mood overall.
Step 3: BEAUTIFY yourself
So I know some of you may laugh at this but… it is true fact there has even been scientific studies on it! If you beautify yourself, and enhance yourself by taking care and taking the time on you.. YOU WILL 100% feel more confidenct, happier and better in your skin! So what are my 4 key beautifying products and regime to boosting my mood overnight?
Get yourself to boots, superdrug, tesco, sainsburys, wherever yourself and buy yourself some Radox bubbles! Go to the gym, get home eat your healthy meal, and then pour yourself a nice relaxing bath filled with bubbles. BLISS!! Your body will appreciate you giving it some R&R.
Step 2: Tan Yourself Up
This isn’t a joke, I promise you and alot of females won’t admit this! A bit of colour does you the world of good! It makes you feel radiant and confident. Now we are not looking at being an oompa loompa, just a nice subtle bit of colour always helps boost your confidence. Get some Vita Liberata, they have a wide range of shades and really good for no streaks!
Step 3: Enhance that smile
I get alot of people asking me, have you had your teeth whitened? Answer is no… but I do use products that enhance their whiteness and have consistently used them over time. It is one of my biggest confidence boosts: Glowing White Smile! Get some Dr Georges Dental White:
Step 4: GET SOME SLEEP!
After this whole rigmarole of a day, the best thing you can do is be tucked up in bed by 10pm. Honestly… look at this science:
The biological clock and your internal organs, the main internal organs of your body work according to a “Time Schedule.” Knowing how your body works can help you regulate your schedule in order to attain the optimum level of health and well-being.
9.00 pm – 11.00 pm: At this time, your body eliminates toxic chemicals from the immune system (lymph nodes). * Best time is to go in bed and asleep before 8 pm, good enough before 9pm, latest before 10 pm it is still healthy. Generally in some sense from 8pm till 10pm rest our intelligence, ability to make Balanced and Healthy decisions. From 10pm till 12 mid night rest our mind, ability to think and contemplate. Ability to cope, digest and show in healthy way our emotions. From 12 mid night rest our growth material body.
11.00 pm – 1.00 am: This is the time your liver eliminates poisons and rejuvenates itself. *It is best to be sound asleep by 9 pm or 10 pm for your body to properly execute this important function.
12.00 midnight – 4.00 am: this is the time your bone marrow produces blood.
1.00 am – 3.00 am: This is the time your gall bladder eliminates toxins and rejuvenates itself.
3.00 am – 5.00 am: This is the time your lungs eliminate toxins and rejuvenate themselves.
4.00 am – 7.00 am: This is the time your colon eliminates poisons and rejuvenates itself. This is the proper time to empty your bowel.
7.00 am – 9.00 am: This is the time that vitamins, minerals, proteins and nutrients are absorbed in your small intestines. Definitely it is healthy eat breakfast at this time.
(HH Mahanidhi Swami Article “Be Healthy, Happy and Holy — Sleep by 10 pm”)
Wake up in the morning feeling good, looking good and boosted for your day ahead! Go on you can do it!!!