30 things I’ve learnt being 30

So with less than a month till I’m no longer just 30, I was doing a little bit of reflection and I thought id type a little blog about some of my lessons this year. I was going to do as a video… but I’ve run out of time to edit soooooo here we go with a blog – I may video for release on my 31st…. OMG 31! I was reflecting over the last year over the weekend and how much has changed in my life and lessons I have learnt. It’s crazy when you look at it how much you can grow as a person in a year so here’s a little insight:

30 things I’ve learnt being 30:

  1. age is definitely just a number – you don’t feel any different all you might do is just adjust your outlook on a few things to remind yourself your not 21 anymore 😁
  2. Being single is okay!! Especially in London. I remember leading into my 30th I felt this massive pressure to be in a relationship again and I was panicking and thinking oh shit.
  3. 30 is definitely the new 20! It’s been the first year I’ve really started to feel I’ve come into my own person and own that. You stop worrying about all the other stuff that used to cause you upset and remove it.
  4. You can just keep improving your fitness. This year I have probably become the fittest I have ever been in my life even more so than when i was an athlete – just all rounded and not lost any strength.
  5. Real friendships last no matter the distance and miles. I think we get older, friends start to marry off, move away but the ones that are real are always there. I do not miss the days of being a teen and having to go through all the girl bullshit we all did when we were at school.
  6. You only live once so eat the cake, drink the wine and actually live your life – it won’t have that much impact on you if you do everything in balance.
  7. Don’t take life so seriously: in my 20s I was so focused on being an elite athlete I took EVERY element of my life so seriously including sleep. Having a couple of nights where you maybe stay out later is actually good for your soul.
  8. Happiness doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It’s being perfectly happy and accepting what you have while striving to improve.
  9. Laugh more with people you love
  10. Consistency over volume. I read an article the other day actually which backed this up. As you get older consistency is more of the key rather than caning your body all the time!!
  11. Nightclubs are not for me hahaha I used to force myself to go out to clubs and this year I sort of realised crowded dark rooms are not fun for me. In my 18s-30 I barely went clubbing because I was training pretty much full time and in long term relationship. I much prefer drinks and dinner or a boozy brunch and in bed by 12 haha and that’s okay 😁
  12. Trust needs to be earnt
  13. You don’t need to have it al together. I think at 30 you feel is an anticipation you need to have it all together… it’s okay everyday is a journey.
  14. Being yourself is the best thing you can be and it’s the most attractive thing you can do. You will only attract people into your life who get you rather than moulding yourself to fit it (it will never work)
  15. I enjoy and thrive of being busy. I used to get stick all the time about being busy but I actually thrive of it. I spent time trying to strip life back and I hated it. You gotta do what works for you.
  16. Your never too old to just have fun…. dance in the rain, jump in the sea… you are only as young as you feel
  17. Others people’s judgements of you are definitely their judgement and insecurities. Take everything with a pinch of salt and move forward
  18. Heart break does get easier…. emotions are temporary and the feeling will pass
  19. You don’t need to be married, want to have kids right now or even be in a relationship… it doesn’t define you
  20. Time on your own is amazing. Never be afraid to travel and escape on your own. I’ve found these trips some of my most creative and productive in spending time working out what I want and who I am.
  21. Life is definitely better when you are laughing so make sure you take time every day and week to do something that makes your heart smile.
  22. You need to live more present in your life. Put your phone away in social situations and just live in the moment.
  23. Stop worrying about finding the right person, the right job, having the right body. Just be you and you will attract the right things in.
  24. Mistakes and hurt are genuinely just lessons that help you grow.
  25. Being kind hearted doesn’t make you week it makes you extremely strong
  26. Everybody has a story that you might not know about spend time trying to understand what they are going through rather than thinking it as a judgement of yourself.
  27. Creating busyness doesn’t mean productivity: learning to stop creating busyness and start being productive and accepting that rest is good
  28. You will always be enough for the right person
  29. Your smile and mindset has the power to influence, change and help others make a change. By sharing your story and by standing up it is helping others even when you doubt it is.
  30. Life is too short to live in regret, fear or anger. So forgive, face your fears and let go of anger. Focus on what makes you happy and rock it 😉

Be Your Own Sacred Space

So I have been pretty quiet over the last couple of months. I wasn’t sure how to portray this into words, and I just felt like I had nothing to say, while trying to keep my shit together and carry on with life. Everything I had thought in something felt like it had turned out to be based completely on lies. I am a very upfront and honest person so when people lie I struggle to understand at times why they would do it. Ive spent the past couple of months just silencing my mind of overthinking and hurting myself and refinding me. London can be crazy, it can consume you and pull you in and sometimes you just need to take a step out. Its been a couple of months of transition, change, letting go, learning to trust in the process, learn to forgive when you don’t get an apology, learning to understand and accept me for me embracing everything I bring and owning it. Its been a journey that I have learnt a lot about my own resilience and learnt a lot about how much I have to give… and understand If I have this amount of heart to give to someone who takes it for granted I am so ready to give it to someone who really deserves it… its been a time to find a sacred space for myself. A time where I have really had to remove myself from a lot of things and focus on the things I know bring me peace in my mind, body and soul and focus on only me. I posted on mental health awareness week about how we all deal with mental health differently and we all have stigma about mental health and what it is. We all face mental health on a day to day basis just by how you deal with life. Some of us are talkers, some of us are not. I am certainly a person who likes to take some time out, understand it, analyse it, make peace with it and then move forward in silence. We can all find it hard to find that sacred space where you can heal. Heal from the race of life, heal from the words going through our heads, heal from the situations that break you heart. Heal from lies you have been told and knowing you will never find out the truth. I truly have some great concepts regarding Find Your Power – that’s what my soul searching does – helps the creative process. But the most important thing in this process is understanding what is your sacred space and helping your own mind and body be your favourite place to be.

In one of my last blogs I wrote about a non comparison of yourself to others. At the time I was experiencing a situation that I had ended up judging everything about who I was, my body, my mind and my soul. Questioning if I was good enough and if I would ever meet someone who accepted me exactly as I was – lets be honest I am a bit of a dork haha. I am a great believer in being kind and understanding everyones situation for what it is. The hardest thing with this is seeing the best in people and situations. The weakness with this is at times, you forget not everyone lives with such an open mind and open heart. Allowing toxicity into your mind causes the effect of a negative loop in your confidence. Even the strongest people can allow this to happen at times. All it takes is one small trigger to set it all off. What it takes is knowing how you can switch it off and get yourself back on track quicker. It’s having strategies for yourself, understanding yourself, being at peace with yourself. How often do you take time out just to reflect? Reflect on what makes you feel peaceful, where are you when you feel peaceful? What inspires you to make a change? If you are in a rut how can you get out of it? When you start really negatively talking to yourself, what has caused this? Is it unhappiness in yourself or is it a trigger for what someone else has said? For me the key message here for you is… you are in that head of yours a lot. We live there 24/7 so we need to ensure its a nice place to be. To create this we need to find time to create a sacred space, so when you are on your own in there its a peaceful place to be. When we create it, that’s when the magic happens, when your energy changes, when you radiate what you want back, when you shine brighter than the sun and everything feels easy. When the right people appear in your life and you learn to let go and realise what really matters to you. Write it out… State. what you want and make it happen. Take your time and find your peace. It’s not always going to be an easy journey, but when you get there, and you have created that sacred space, everything feels lighter and clearer. You deserve it… remember we are all human, good things take time. Sometimes you need to get lost to rediscover and remind yourself you can Create your own sunshine.

All my Love xxx