Managing Your Mind: Happiness

Happiness? What does that word mean to you?
Definition: “Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy”

Happiness is something that many people state they are trying to find, I am searching for happiness, in life, in love, in work, but true happiness comes from within you learning to be completely and utterly happy with oneself and the truth is happiness is just so varied for everyone… so why do people judge each others lives so much?

Jayne Nisbet: Ian Barclay Photography

If you were to take a moment to write down and describe what true happiness in your life looked like for you? What would it be? Who would be involved? Who would be removed? Whats stopping you take the step to achieve true happiness? Everybody deserves to be happy! This doesn’t mean you need to running around the world sharing peace and happiness everywhere… this is the feeling of content happiness within… because lets face it… content happiness with yourself is where you find happiness in your life.

People say to me, “Jayne you have always got so much energy”, “you are always so energetic”, “how come you can stay so positive when things aren’t going your way?”

BECAUSE… We control every action of our brain: we control how we react to situations – if you want to be annoyed or frustrated with someone, fact is you are the only one who is allowing it to happen.

Take a moment

Scenario: You have had an extremely stressful day at work, and you are driving home and you are just feeling a bit het up that your day has not gone quite as planned and you get stuck in traffic.

How do you react? Is it an instant melt down moment – the world is going to end – beeping your horn – ranting and raving.

How does this make you feel? Angry – even more het up – hot – flustered – frustrated (basically you just feel rubbish in yourself)

What if you got to this traffic and thought well this is annoying but there is nothing I can do and in that moment spend some time reflecting on your day. Why was it so stressful? what could you do to make your day better tomorrow? Then on self reflection realise that it hasn’t been too bad, and the traffic is now moving again and everything is going to be okay.

How does this make you feel? More relaxed, relieved, actually remembering the world isn’t going to end because of stress!

This is just an example of your mindset in a moment but in each given moment in your day you are given the opportunity to weather you smile or you frown, the same way you have the control to stop a thought or allow a thought to consume your mind and brain.

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It has even been proven scientifically that smiling can increase instant happiness, “When our brains feel happy, endorphins are produced and neuronal signals are transmitted to your facial muscles to trigger a smile. This is the start of the positive feedback loop of happiness. When our smiling muscles contract, they fire a signal back to the brain, stimulating our reward system, and further increasing our level of happy hormones, or endorphins. In short, when our brain feels happy, we smile; when we smile, our brain feels happier.” (British Council of Science)

So answer this again:

Happiness? What does this word mean to you?

Why wouldn’t you work on your happiness? Why wouldn’t you stop negative thoughts from entering? Why wouldn’t you want to live your life as your true self and express yourself in whatever way you want!

Write down what makes you happy and make sure that you do more of what makes you happy? Why not? Just try…. Go on I Dare you!

You never know how it might change the world you live in 🙂


Love yourself daily and remind yourself that you are amazing – because each and every single one of you out there has something to give to the world. Go and shine your happiness and help others achieve theirs.

Smile and The World Will Smile with You x

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